1. Love isn’t all about receiving, but about experiencing joy together.
It feels good to receive, nobody can deny that, but what’s more important is the joy two awesome folks can experience with each other. When two people are deeply in love, the giving/receiving part comes naturally, and without tension. Couples whose love is strong enough usually get their wants and needs met – experiencing the joys of this together is most important.
2. Love isn’t about someone else making you whole.
You must already be “whole” before you can ever experience a healthy, loving relationship with someone. You know what they say, to love someone else or they can love you, you must first love yourself. It’s pretty much the same concept with being “whole.” When you’re already in whole, once you enter a relationship, the need to have someone else give you something that only you can give yourself won’t stand in your way of love.
3. Life really, truly is all about feeling.
Feeling joyful, bliss, appreciated and unconditionally loved – that’s what life is about. I’d bet there isn’t a single one of us on earth who doesn’t want these things above all else. When you realize that this is what it’s all about, you’ll be more in tune to each other and your feelings. And you know what they say: when one spouse feels badly, so does the other and when one is happy, so is the other. So, take note of what creates these positive feelings for the both of you – and do them more often.
4. Having peace feels way better than winning an argument.
I don’t know about you ladies, but it can feel good to “win” arguments. However, it’s a quick way to sour the good vibes, when you take winning too seriously. There doesn’t have to be a winner and loser in every argument. Respect each other’s side, and usually, (when you stop feeding that ego that screams “but I have to be right, and S/he has to admit it!”) you’ll find that a lot of arguments weren’t big enough to evolve into more than a serious discussion in the first place. In fact, when you think about how short life is, some arguments will suddenly become irrelevant, and so will winning them.
5. It’s okay to disagree. . . on some things.
Obviously, it’s important to be in agreement on the important matters of a relationship, but the truth is, I really don’t need him to agree with me on whether or not aliens do in fact exist (and they do). Bottom line: if it’s not a deal-breaker, we can simply agree to disagree, but still enjoy a fun, lighthearted debate every now and then.
Written by: Kendra Richards is a writer, pet lover, aloe vera-eater and a woman of many talents. If she isn’t passionately typing away, she’s more than likely spending time with her family, pets, boyfriend or attempting to sew something. It’s also possible that she’s buried deep in some type of activism work. Writing anything and everything from beauty, health, fashion product reviews to informational articles, she loves variety when it comes to reading and writing. A people and animal lover, she believes cats are super heroes in disguise.