5 Things Single Folks Do Wrong

What are single folks doing wrong – that keep them single? I’m talking to the singles who wish to be in a relationship, not those who have it all together and are not seeking advice from an ex-single woman. After observing some of my single friends, I noticed a few common factors, and now we’re about to rip them to shreds:

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1. “Something must be wrong with me since I can’t find the right one.”

Nothing is wrong with you! Repeat after me: nothing is wrong with me.

Stop comparing yourself to other people’s relationships, and for Pete’s sake, stop listening to the TV’s version of single folks (ahem Ted from How I met your mother!) You are not those characters, and being single doesn’t mean you must be doing something wrong. Stop trying to fix yourself each weekend when you go home without a date.

Everything is right with you.  I would bet that the minute you stop focusing on what must be wrong with you, or what you need to fix in order to start bringing in the men/women, you’ll begin to see a whole new world of people who catch your interest, and who might even share the interest. Sometimes we are so wrapped up in our singledom to even notice those dates we’re praying so hard for at night!


2.  Needing a relationship.

I’m sorry to burst your bubble, but the minute you start saying “I need a man/woman because….”, is the minute you’re basically telling the universe that you can’t live without this special someone. You’ll never get what you want by needing it too much.

Learn to feel (even just a little) okay without having someone to come home to. Sounds crappy, but when you tell yourself that you’re okay with being alone for a while (even if this isn’t true), you’ll start reaping what you’ve sown all this time. Holding on too tightly seems to do the opposite of what we really want, so practice letting go just a tiny bit, and see if you don’t soon begin meeting potential loves.


3. You’ve developed the never-gonna-happen mentality.

Never develop the never-gonna-happen mentality! Or you know what will happen? Exactly what you proclaim — nothing. When you’re constantly feeding yourself these ideas that something will never happen for you, that is exactly what you’ll get! So, as corny as it is, take the advice of Earl Nightingale and begin with more positive thinking. You’ll be amazed at what that simple task alone will do for you.

4. “I’ll never get anyone because my standards are just too high.”There’s no such thing, so stop giving yourself that excuse. Having standards just means that you know what you and need in a man or woman. While relationships are about compromise, you don’t have to give up your core wants and needs. Figure out what it is that you value the most in a partner and use that to help you find the beau that best suits you. Just because you have standards doesn’t mean you can’t find anyone. It actually means you can more easily sift through the ones that aren’t a good fit.

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5. “The kind of man/woman I want just doesn’t exist.”

Again, there’s no such thing, so stop using that excuse. I can assure you, the kind of person you’ve dreamed of is out there. If you are a fan of the Law of Attraction, you’ll realize this as truth. The qualities that you are looking for in your partner are out there and continue to put those into the universe. As you date you can use this as a barometer for your compatibility with another. Flexibility is key – sometimes your dream man or woman does not come in the package you exected. But if you are open to it you just might unwrap the gift and realize he or she was all that you ever asked for. This means being open to meeting and getting to know people – and realizing that you deserve your desires and you can have them . Yes you’re dream man or woman is out there – open your eyes.

Written by: Kendra Richards is a writer, pet lover, aloe vera-eater and a woman of many talents. If she isn’t passionately typing away, she’s more than likely spending time with her family, pets, boyfriend or attempting to sew something. It’s also possible that she’s buried deep in some type of activism work. Writing anything and everything from beauty, health, fashion product reviews to informational articles, she loves variety when it comes to reading and  writing. A people and animal lover, she believes cats are super heroes in disguise.

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