Why He Hates Your Vibrator

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There are men who are thrilled to incorporate sex toys into their relationships, while others scowl at the sight of BOB (your Battery Operated Boyfriend.) It’s the latter that stumps us. You thought he’d be happy that you were frisky enough to bring home a vibrator? But, the plan backfired. Now, what’s a girl to do?

Answer: Know why he hates BOB and encourage a newfound friendship. Below are reasons our male counterparts despise our plastic friends and ways to remedy the situation so both of you are pleased.

THE PROBLEMS:

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Problem 1: He’s Feeling Replaced

You haven’t “replaced” your love-muffin with your plastic friend, but it can feel that way to him. Most people enjoy using toys during foreplay, but not as objects to use in place of him. Making sure you aren’t spending more time solo with BOB than with your beau is vital if you want everyone to get along.

Side Note: If unfullfilment is the case, then there’s other ways to go about that. Here’s a tip: tell him what you want, guide him in bed, and if he’s simply resistant about pleasuring you, then honey, you’re in the wrong bed.

Problem 2: He’s Feeling Like He Doesn’t Satisfy You

You may not even be unsatisfied but it can sure come off like that. Restricting your sexual activity to your vibrator can give the impression that you aren’t satisfied with his sex, or that the vibrator is better. For many of us, there’s not a toy on this planet we’d choose over our guys, so make sure he knows that!

THE REMEDY:

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Use Your Mouth

To talk to him! Better yet, actions speak louder than words. He may need a reminder that he’s your ultimate pleasure source. Make sure he knows that he is number one and your toys are your way of throwing in a unique adventure for both of you. If he knows you’re satisfied, then there’s a better chance of him joining in on the fun instead of stuffing your vibrator in the garbage disposal (Crunch Crunch). Remember, in the case of vibrator meets lover, if you want them to play well together, reassurance is everything.

THE PROBLEM:

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You Didn’t Introduce Them Properly

Did introduction between lover and vibrator occur thanks to him following the sound of the buzzing? Did you introduce them right in the middle of a hot session together? For some men, all of the above is acceptable, but for others, it’s freaky and intimidating. Suddenly he’s filled with these thoughts such as,  “I haven’t been pleasing her well enough” or “I’m not big enough!” Panic mode sets in, and he now resents the objects that brings you pleasure.

THE REMEDY:

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Re-Introduction

Reintroduce your partner and Bob on better terms and encourage them to partner. Instead of going solo, if you want to decrease your chances of giving the impression that he isn’t fulfilling to you, try introducing toys as part of foreplay, or in some way that includes him. Plus, if he’s having fun too, then he’s more likely to begin a friendship with Bob.

Tip:  It’s hard to hate something that feels good to you too! Some men enjoy vibrations, hence the reason male vibrating rings exist. Any vibrator will do.  Try using it on his sensitive parts. Even better, try using a couple’s vibrator so he doesn’t feel like he’s sharing you with a vibrator. 

Written by: Kendra Richards is a writer, pet lover, aloe vera-eater and a woman of many talents. If she isn’t passionately typing away, she’s more than likely spending time with her family, pets, boyfriend or attempting to sew something. It’s also possible that she’s buried deep in some type of activism work. Writing anything and everything from beauty, health, fashion product reviews to informational articles, she loves variety when it comes to reading and  writing. A people and animal lover, she believes cats are super heroes in disguise.

 

 

 

 

Celebrate Valentines Day as a Single Woman

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Thought you had to skip celebrating the day of love simply because you’re single? Oh, darling we’re happy to tell you that you’re so wrong. Single is no excuse not to celebrate and give to the person you’ve loved longer than anyone else in your lifetime — yourself! We present you with 3 incredible ways to celebrate loving you (and actually enjoy yourself) this Valentine’s day, despite being alone.

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1. Sexy Shopping Spree

Why bother when you have no lover to slip into new lingerie for, you ask? Because it isn’t about a significant other. When we get dressed for a typical day, we choose clothing that makes us feel good. Why should lingerie be any different? Dressing up is something many of us have enjoyed since childhood. Remember all the fun and excitement that came with it? That’s exactly the kind of fun you experience when you drop your inhibitions and take a day to dress up in something sexy that makes you feel great. Dressing up in lingerie is just the adult version of a childhood pastime.

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2. Get Intimate… with yourself

Who said you needed a lover for that special V-day orgasm we all long for? Grab ol’ trusty and show yourself some love, or better yet…spend your Valentine’s day scoping out adult stores. Pick up a new, awesome-looking vibrator for a Valentine’s night thrill. Go all out and combine your new toy adventure with number one on our list (the lingerie shopping spree!) for an even bigger V-day bang.

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3. Set a Goal and Begin Right Away

Lastly, end your thrill-filled night by setting a goal, and making a step towards it. Just stepping outside of your normal routine and doing something out of the ordinary — even if it is late and you have work the next day — is a whole new excitement in itself. Nothing is more fulfilling than making strides towards a goal no matter how small. Best of all, you’ll have something to look forward to at the end of the V-day night, even if it is just a painting your wall.

Written by: Kendra Richards is a writer, pet lover, aloe vera-eater and a woman of many talents. If she isn’t passionately typing away, she’s more than likely spending time with her family, pets, boyfriend or attempting to sew something. It’s also possible that she’s buried deep in some type of activism work. Writing anything and everything from beauty, health, fashion product reviews to informational articles, she loves variety when it comes to reading and  writing. A people and animal lover, she believes cats are super heroes in disguise.

5 Quotes of Love that will Light Your Fire

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Nothing is more inspiring than things other people have said, especially when those things speak to us. With Valentine’s Day right around the corner, who couldn’t appreciate a little inspiration in their love life?  These 5 quotes are a pot of gold because they’ll remind you what love is about, so get ready for a love buzz!

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1. Number one is for you rebel lovers, partnered with someone you never wanted to fall in love with:

“Love is the ultimate outlaw. It just won’t adhere to any rules. The most any of us can do is sign on as its accomplice.”         

 – Tom Watson

That explains why some folks have a love/hate relationship with love itself.  You simply can’t help who you love, even if they don’t match up as your ideal soul-mate. You can’t “turn off love.”

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2.There is no remedy for love but to love more.”

 -Henry David Thoreau

Like the saying “laughter is the best medicine,” Henry’s quote is so beautifully true as it reminds us that love is the medicine  for love. Another way to think of it, depending on the situation: “The only way to get over an ex is to get under the next!” Just a thought!

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3. John Lennon’s metaphor for love was too irresistible not to list:

 “We’ve got this gift of love, but love is like a precious plant. You can’t just accept it and leave it in the cupboard or just think it’s going to get on by itself. You’ve got to keep watering it. You’ve got to really look after it and nurture it.”  

– John Lennon

If any of us have ever loved a day in our lives, we can relate to what Mr. Lennon said. Love can do a lot of things, but it can’t continue thriving through years of  neglect. It may not completely perish, and if you were to dig real deep, you’d still see it in there somewhere, wiltering. But it won’t thrive until we jerk it back up and give it a splash of water. Or better yet, keep watering your love plant on a regular basis and it’ll stay alive and healthy

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4. For those who avoid love in  fear of being hurt:

“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” – Rumi

Powerful, huh? And much easier said than done.  However, when those walls we build up to keep us from being hurt by love are torn to shreds, we can no longer find excuses to continue avoiding love. Fear walls do not hold up to love.

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5. To spark that passionate fire deep within your hearts, my favorite love quote:

“You only need one man to love you. But him to love you free like a wildfire, crazy like the moon, always like tomorrow, sudden like an inhale and overcoming like the tides. Only one man and all of this.”   

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Enough said!

Written by: Kendra Richards is a writer, pet lover, aloe vera-eater and a woman of many talents. If she isn’t passionately typing away, she’s more than likely spending time with her family, pets, boyfriend or attempting to sew something. It’s also possible that she’s buried deep in some type of activism work. Writing anything and everything from beauty, health, fashion product reviews to informational articles, she loves variety when it comes to reading and  writing. A people and animal lover, she believes cats are super heroes in disguise.

5 Activities that Increase Relationship Happiness

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It doesn’t take a relationship expert to know that couples who have more fun together tend to have longer, healthier and happier relationships. And what is it we all want in our relationships? Happiness, right?

The question is, how do we achieve that, especially after settling down with each other. It seems no matter how hard we’ve tried, those old smoochy days filled with exchanges of loving compliments just don’t come as easily. Not when our work-related chat has replaced the compliments, and watching TV together because we’re just too tired for anything else has replaced the smooches.

According to a psychologist at Denver University’s Center for Marital and Family Studies, the “correlation between fun and marital happiness is high and significant.” He goes on to say that the more “fun, friendship and being there for your partner, the happier the relationship will get over time.” Research has confirmed that our need for engaging in activities together, as a couple plays an important role in our happiness.

Now on to the fun stuff – literally!

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#1.   I apologize in advance, but I have to go there: Exercise together.

I know,  sometimes I dread exercise too, but having my love-bird join me while working out is such a turn on! Plus there’s a reason people become addicted to exercise — it releases endorphins, (increasing happiness) and it doesn’t take a lot of to reap those make-you-smile benefits. The simplest daily exercises can be rewarding. Why not bring your beau along and reap a double reward!

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#2. Meditate. Since meditation is a well-known peace and happiness generator, why not try it as a couple?

Meditating together has the possibility to increase bonding and happiness as a couple since being in a meditative state tends to put one in an appreciative, grateful mind set and that’s always a positive for a relationship.

There’s useful information on mindful meditation for couples, and you’d be surprised at the awesome benefits.

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#3. A Couple’s Performance

Research done by George MacKerron, Economics Lecturer at University of Sussex and developer of the app “Mappiness” showed that performing together is one way to increase happiness as a couple! Think singing karaoke together or  performing in a local drama. As long as neither of you suffer from stage fright, these activities could  improve your state of happiness and increase bonding. Win!

For couples with stage fright, an at-home performance is just as good (brownie points if you both do it in only underwear).

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#4. Exchange a little acupressure. How about learning acupressure techniques that can be used on your love? Acupressure lessons (for bonding) can be found online for free. Skin to skin contact is known for its ability to increase our feelings of bonding with each other, and not to mention touch makes us feel loved, so what better way to exchange love- than acupressure, which has a whole host of its own benefits.

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#5. Lastly, what should be a requirement of every couple on earth: Tickle fights. There’s just something inexplicably exhilarating  about two adults running around squealing as the tickle monster finds his/her prey.

Yes, chasing each other around the house (again, bonus points if said chasing followed by tickling is done in undies) is part of the requirement.

Written by: Kendra Richards is a writer, pet lover, aloe vera-eater and a woman of many talents. If she isn’t passionately typing away, she’s more than likely spending time with her family, pets, boyfriend or attempting to sew something. It’s also possible that she’s buried deep in some type of activism work. Writing anything and everything from beauty, health, fashion product reviews to informational articles, she loves variety when it comes to reading and  writing. A people and animal lover, she believes cats are super heroes in disguise.

The Gift of Orgasm is Coming This Year Part 2

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It was so steamy in our first Gift of Orgasm article that we had to give you a part two – tips for single gals to pleasure themselves solo!

Replicate sex

Realistic dildos are designed to replicate intercourse with a male. Not identical to having a partner, but this makes giving yourself a Holiday orgasm even more fun. Amongst the most popular are dildos made from material called “VixSkin” or “CyberSkin” or “SuperSkin” or “PureSkin,” etc. Basically, if it has the word “skin” in the material’s name, it’s designed to feel like skin. The downside: “skin-dildos” requires more care than your average silicone-material because the highly porous “skin” materials mean it holds bacteria, and isn’t best for long-term use due to risk of infection. The next best thing to “skin-like” dildos are realistically shaped ones made from safe silicone.

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The G-spot Gal

A favorite G-spot toy, Envie. G-spot toys are the perfect gift for the girl who wants to experience the “gush” or “squirt” everyone talks about. First, you must locate your G-spot before you can begin to stimulate it. Once you have, it can be one of the best orgasms you’ll experience. Some women are able to orgasm via manual stimulation (1-2 fingers vigorously rubbing the anterior wall of the vagina — the spot where you feel a ridged-like texture, and when pressed, you’ll feel a need-to-urine-like sensation) or using  a toy designed to stimulate the g-spot. Just like the other orgasms, the G-spot is no exception, as some need a heavy-duty g-spotter with an intense curve in its design (like the Pure Wand, a steel, pricey dildo).

Some like Pure Wand. Others, like myself, can achieve the g-spot orgasm via more affordable, slightly curved toys (such as the Lia G-Bliss vibrator, a favorite). Another inexpensive option for those who are able to reach their G-spot is creams, like “Tickle Her G-Spot,” to improve sensation. The cream is applied directly to the G-spot, and results in swelling, making it easier to find. It may also make it more sensitive to stimulation, therefore making the G-spot orgasm easier to achieve. It can be used with a G-spot toy or fingers.

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Take the Bullet

Bullet vibrators can be used for external stimulation, and some for internal, too. Bullets tend to have powerful vibrations with a hint of buzziness to them, which can either be perfect for you, or too intense and result in what I call Numb Clit Syndrome.

For those of us who prone to NCS, using a bullet internally and leaving it in place is enticing. Once in place, your hands can manually or electronically massage the clitoris for added stimulation.

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Girl On-The-Go

Another favorite of mine is a hands-free vibrator that can be tucked away in your undies, while you use your hands to explore or just slip it in for a thrill outside the house. I love a good strap-on clitoral vibrator, which is a vibrator that sits on the outside of your vulva and is held on by straps, too. My favorite and often used hands-free vibrator is Noa, a toy that stimulates the G-spot, with an outer “stem” that nudges against the clitoris.

Oral Simulators

Even oral sex lovers can have the next best thing. SaSi — a toy labeled an “oral simulator” is said to help achieve a similar-to-oral-sex orgasm. It has a “nub” under a layer of silicone that moves back and forth to simulate the sensation of tongue movements.

A more budget-friendly version, and favorite of mine, is the Sqweel 2. It has small silicone “tongues” that rotate on a wheel and flap against the skin.

Happy Self-Gifting Lovelies!

 Written by: Kendra Richards is a writer, pet lover, aloe vera-eater and a woman of many talents. If she isn’t passionately typing away, she’s more than likely spending time with her family, pets, boyfriend or attempting to sew something. It’s also possible that she’s buried deep in some type of activism work. Writing anything and everything from beauty, health, fashion product reviews to informational articles, she loves variety when it comes to reading and  writing. A people and animal lover, she believes cats are super heroes in disguise.

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