La Conversation

French pastries with a Californication twist, La Conversation is a small but quaint Bakery Cafe primply located on West Hollywood’s Doheny Drive, just a few steps from Santa Monica Blvd. I’m sure by now you’ve noticed how much I enjoy a great breakfast or brunch, thus I can assure you a trip to this little treasure chest, filled with pastries to your delight, will certainly leave your taste buds tingling for more. No worries, if you are more of an omelet, griddle or breakfast sandwich kind of gal or guy, they have a fair share available and much much more! As for the pastries my personal favorites are: the Red Velvet Cupcake with it’s tenderly sweeten frosting, the Almandine Teacake sprinkled in powder sugar (A.MA.ZING might I add) and the Macadamia Heart dipped in a sultry dark chocolate. Now if that does not get your blood going and hunger hormones flowing I do not know what to tell you : ).

Red + Pretty Littles Things

Chissy Teigen and Taylor Swift owned the spotlight Sunday night at the Billboard Awards. Noting the fact that wearing red on the red carpet has always been a questioned of concern, as you can see the carpet was white and these two ladies definitely stood out.

While many beauties were present for the show, it was the pretty little things that captured my eye. From Nelly Furtado’s shocking earrings, to Miley’s pee-toe pumps, to Alicia’s Indian hand jewelry paired with a ringlet of earrings, to Brandy’ tiny golden clutch and Chrissy’s armadillo style heels, a parade of precious little treats was a simple delight, kind of like a cupcake.

Making What you Love Bankable

                                   tyra banks

Tyra Banks wrote an open letter in support of vogue’s decision to no longer use models that appear frail and unhealthy. She recounted her own time as a model when her body began to develop larger than the accepted size four frame. She had curves but when she was faced with the decision to either turn to unhealthy ways to manage her weight or loose work as a model she decided to opt for neither. Instead she took what she had, curves and all, and made it her own. This decision likely catapulted her into super model status and paved the way for her as a savvy business woman who used her modeling experience to produce American’s next top model, The Tyra Banks show, write a book and much more.  Sometimes you have to stand apart from the crowd in order to be accepted. A lesson to be learned.

But how does the average American relate? Huffington Post reported, “of those under 25 years old and with bachelor degrees, more than half remained underemployed or out of work last year, the largest proportion in over a decade.” Yes, that means you and me are facing a tough job market where more and more 20–something’s are graduating college and getting advanced degrees only to have difficulty finding a qualified job.

What can we do about it? Think back to Tyra. When she was facing unemployment as a model, she took action and created her own employment opportunities. The days when a person works in one job position for the same company until retirement are over. Although economically times are hard, this time is the best time to do what it is you love. If you are unemployed or underemployed now is the prefect time for you to think about what it is you love to do, and make it make money for you. If you can’t get the job you want, or perhaps you’re like me, and no job title for what you love to do exists, do what the movers and shakers in industry do. When your dream job doesn’t exist, Create it!

The “desperate housewife” in all of us

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With Sunday’s grand finale we all bid farewell to Desperate Housewives. Over the last 8 years we’ve all laughed, cried, and been entertained by the women of Wisteria lane. But what can we learn from these women we have come to love and adore? What can these characters and their lives tell us about our own?

Bree reminds us that Perfect Patty’s are often marred with imperfection. The most prim and proper of the bunch, Bree had her own set of struggles. Alcohol abuse, promiscuity, the death of her husband, betrayal by Orson, estranged from her family and friends, Bree’s life was far from perfect. The final season showed viewers the power of learned behavior as a young Bree was taught by her mother to never show her emotions. Forced to constantly put on a happy face in the midst of feeling everything but, Bree’s façade was a source of much internal dissonance. On the outside many of us often fake as though everything is okay, when inside we are really dying. Instead of shielding our emotions, it becomes important for us to seek support from those we love and trust. But first, we must be able to admit that everything is not okay.

 

Lynette-the superwoman was a powerhouse in the business world but her desire to constantly be in control was a major sourse of contention in her personal life. Although she usually meant well, her forceful ways sometimes alienated her from her loved ones including her husband who often felt demeaned and unneeded. Some of us have similar struggles. We have big dreams and work hard to get there. Unfortunately some of the leadership qualities necessary in business are at odds with the way “women are socialized to be.” I am not suggesting that we become docile and not speak our mind, but we must strike a balance between being leaders and being supportive partners. Lynette showed us that we can’t do it all by ourselves, even superwoman needs help.

Gaby – the self-absorbed fashionista. Gaby’s beauty and lifestyle were so important to her. She wanted the finer things in life and sometimes she came off as selfish and self-centered. But let’s not forget a few seasons ago when Gaby was humbled by her family’s “date” with poverty. She had to be the primary caregiver and breadwinner, and life was hard. But once she got her money back somehow Gaby went back to her old ways. This season, however, we got a glimpse into her meager beginnings and childhood trauma she had to endure. Her backstory made her more human, and her character more understandable and relatable. Gaby reminds us that sometimes we try to cover up painful memories with makeup, the finest clothes and jewelry, only to find that once we take them off, the pain is still there.

Susan – Come on there’s a little Susan in all of us, and if not I’m sure we know someone. She’s such a sweetheart but also has a lot of anxiety. Susan is the feeler of the girls. She thinks a lot about her actions, the actions of others, and how they impact people. She likes to fix things, at times manipulating people to get her way; but always in the name of the greater good. This season with her daughter’s pregnancy she learned that although you may believe an action is the right thing to do, you can’t force someone to do it. Additionally, with the death of her husband her whole world was turned upside down leading to permissive parenting of her son. Susan’s emotional responses mirror that of many, teaching us that sometimes, we just need to stop and take a deep breadth instead of reacting quickly to a situation.

The Power of the Human Connection

Today is the day my mother’s mother was born. Though she passed away when I was young, I always felt this deep connection to her. I never really understood how I could feel so connected to someone that I had no conscious memory of. I often wondered what life would be like had she not passed? Many days I yearned for her presence but never understood why I wanted her so much. I grieved her death, but how could you miss someone so much that you didn’t even remember?

Perhaps Freud was right, maybe there are unconscious memories that impact our lives? Maybe the time spent when I was a young child was just enough to connect our spirits in an unwavering bond, that not even conscious memory could break.  Science teaches us that most people’s conscious memories form when we are about 4 or 5, maybe even 3 years old for some people. We tend not to remember much of what happens to us during the first couple of years of our lives, we are in essence too young to remember, our brains not quite fully formed to store such information.

But what our brains may not store, is it possible our hearts do?  Could our spirits “remember”  connections with people and experiences we had? Have you ever been in a place or saw a person that looked so familiar but you just couldn’t consciously place your finger on how, when, or where? It was something you just knew. Implicit memory is the a type of memory that is “characterized as a lack of conscious awareness.” In amnestic patients, implicit memories aid their ability to complete procedural tasks. For example despite their memory loss they may still be able to tie their shoes. They may not remember where or how they learned to do so, but the ability to perform the task is still there. Evidence that something in our body is wired to “remember” things even when the memory is not conscious.

So as I pondered this connection with a woman who I love and revere despite no conscious memory of her, it brought my attention to the fact that I have always heard how kind, thoughtful, and giving she was. I remember a letter my family found that my grandmother had written to my grandfather, and in closing she spoke so highly of my own mother “she is such a sweet girl…I sure hope the good Lord blesses her.” I smile because I realize that a part of my love for my deceased grandmother is attributed to the love I have for my own mother; a woman so kind, generous, loving, and selfless. My mother, is “her mother’s child.” And I love, honor, and respect her so much, that I love, honor, and respect the woman who she feels the very same way about, and who passed along such good qualities.  The yearning I have to be next to my grandmother, is associated to the connection I have to my own mother and wanting to be connected with the woman who passed along such a great spirit. I will forever love and adore my grandmother, she is the woman who made my mother such an amazing person. As mother’s day approaches and I celebrate my own mother, I must pay homage to the woman who gave her life and passed along such a vibrant spirit.

Think about a special person in your life. What qualities define them? Where did these qualities come from? It’s likely some of the amazing qualities your loved one has, are in fact directly connected to amazing qualities in a person they deeply care about.  The way I feel about my grandmother, is a reminder that the legacies we pass down are based on the lives we touch. What will your legacy be? 

The power of the human connection.

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