A Circle for Success

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In the article, “Be The Star of Your Own Life,” we encouraged you to make yourself the leading lady in your life for 2014.  Now that we are halfway through the second month of the New Year, I would like to revisit one of the points made in our life star article:

  • Encouraging Relationships – It is important to have relationships that push you to better yourself.  Remember, “Birds of a feather flock together” (Be The Star of Your Own Life). 

The women in the last article expressed a strong belief in the value of social relationships that inspire and support you in your life’s aspirations.  The well-known quote “No Man is an Island,” is based on the concept that “human beings don’t thrive when isolated from others.” Nevertheless, you must keep in mind that the key element is picking the right people to create your “Circle for Success.”

Art Enthusiast and Mentor Deborah Charles, 61, who has done everything from Modeling to orchestrating successful art exhibits in honor of her late husband, photographer and author Roland Charles, accredits some of her biggest achievements to her circle of supportive friends. “I’ve been blessed with people, who no matter what I’m involved in they support it,” said Charles.   One of Charles’ life goals is to serve her needs and the needs of others, with such an honorable but challenging endeavor, one must be discerning in the choice of the company they keep.

“…Observe and listen…learn how they would be meaningful to your life,” explained Charles, on her methods for choosing beneficial relationships.  In addition, Charles said those in her social circle have a spirit of gratefulness, a willingness to share their friends, and have similar interest. For her,  the icing on the cake is “people who will speak up for you. ”

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If putting yourself out there to meet new people is a little intimidating, you might join an organized group such as clubs based on your interests or cultural group.  For instance, just last month sororities were celebrating the anniversaries of their organizations, and pictures of women united by their sorority affiliation were all over social media. Who you are is a great place to start when deciding which groups you might want to join.

Middle school english teacher, Aquyla Walker, 32, who is a member of Delta Sigma Theta Inc., says being a member of the prestigious sorority offers a sisterhood with women of high stature. “I am surrounded by women (who) already have achievements,” said Walker. Sororities are known to be networks of educated women, who work towards the betterment of the community and its members.   Being affiliated with such organizations puts you in the environment of upward mobility. “It is the best…I have received jobs because my resume says Delt Sigma Theta Inc,” exclaimed Walker. In addition, Walker says her social circle outside of Delta, is composed of dreamers and visionaries, who are in constant pursuit of their goals. “I believe in having a network of mentors… my friends are people who say, ‘No you [got to] do it’.”

Equally important to the meet, greet, and be-friending process, the golden rule to maintaining positive relationships, is to stay connected.  In an age of Twitter, Facebook and Instagram, we have to remember a little face to face time can go a long way. Make the time to nurture your relationships, so in turn they too can nurture you.

Written By Ricki Jae. Morris: “Since of Style Need Not Make Sense,” is her motto.  This Southern Cali Girl is not opposed to standing out in the name of Fashion & Art. As a mother of a 4-year old daughter, she strives to set an example of “Success with Class,” by always being a lady and staying true to self.  In her spare time, Ricki Jae. Blogs about Fashion Designers and Events.

Be The Star of Your Life

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BE THE STAR OF YOUR LIFE: Living everyday as your best self.

Every year we look towards its finish, by aiming to have a better year.   We make “Resolutions,” for self-betterment, in hopes of having a successful 2000-whatever.  This year, U Blush would like to encourage you to “Be the star of your own life,” by striving to be what you envision as your best self.  In order to provide you with some pointers, we have interviewed three women from different walks of life, and asked them to describe the best version of themselves, providing examples of how they embody this everyday.

“I know my weaknesses, and I know my strengths,” answered Ayla Jackson, 25, when asked if she is currently her “Best Version of Self.”  Ms. Jackson with a shy giggle described the best version of her, as a woman who patterns the life after her faith in Christ.  “He set the best example.  I don’t believe I am as close to him, but I try to better myself…that’s all I can do,” said Jackson.

Similarly, Bree Jenkins, 29, who is both a Marriage & Family Therapist and Fashion Blogger of The Gathered Lady, said her best self is something she aspires to be, but she does realize that it will always be somewhat unattainable. Following Ms. Jenkins, Clinical Social Worker and Mother of two, Mrs. Valerie White, 31, said she is about an 8 out of 10 of her best self.

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So how can you become the best version of yourself? Here are some trending standards for living life as your “Best Self.”

  • Spiritual Connectedness- “Spiritual exercise … strengthens you, disciplining your mind so that love and love only guides your thinking and illumines your heart.” – Marianne Williamson (Internationally acclaimed author and lecturer)

“I make sure he’s included in my life,” said Jackson who indicated that she turns to her faith to overcome life’s obstacles.

  • Encouraging Relationships- It is important to have relationships that push you to better yourself.  Remember, “Birds of a feather flock together.”

“You have to monitor and make sure that the relationships that you are engaging yourself are …for self-enhancement,” said Jenkins.

“Surround yourself with people who do what you want to do…go getter’s,” said White.  “If everyone around you sits and just talks about what they want to do, then you are most likely going to be the same way…. Be with people, who are successful in a way you want to be.”

  • Be Good To YOU- The best thing you can do to be your “Best Self,” is to take care of you.  If you are not healthy there’s no way you will be able to help others, or even yourself succeed.

“Talk nice to yourself,” said White. She chooses to speak with nurturing and encouraging words, instead of those that would tear her down.  In addition, White encourages a healthy lifestyle along with your occasional and affordable spa day.

  • Plan to Succeed – Many are turned off by the phrase “New Year’s Resolutions,” so instead of making a list of resolutions, make a plan for living your life completely and as your “Best Self.”

“The first step is, I have to believe in myself,” said White.  Her credo is failure is not a reflection of your [lack] of greatness, it’s a reflection of your preparation.  So write it out, and make your plan of action to succeed.

Each woman we interviewed felt as if they were not yet their best selves, but in actuality because they live their lives today striving to be better, they are indeed their “Best Self.” The best you is the person who, lives through her passions, loves without fear, and knows she is worth it all. Be Your Star Today.

Written By Ricki Jae. Morris: “Since of Style Need Not Make Sense,” is her motto.  This Southern Cali Girl is not opposed to standing out in the name of Fashion & Art. As a mother of a 4-year old daughter, she strives to set an example of “Success with Class,” by always being a lady and staying true to self.  In her spare time, Ricki Jae. Blogs about Fashion Designers and Events.

 

The Contemporary Professional Stylista

Who is the Contemporary, Professional Stylista?

The U Blush Woman is vibrant, multi-faceted, and dynamic! She is best summed as the Contemporary, Professional, Stylista. Otherwise noted, CPS! But who is this woman we speak of? In the the modern world, women are busy and wear multiple hats. We have to juggle our professional life, getting higher education, and pursuing our careers. But that’s not all. We are woman, meaning we are human and we value our womanhood. We break up to make up, travel and eat, and enjoy being entertained. We value our health and wellness, enjoy fashion and looking good.

The CPS represents the balance between one’s professional life and personal interests. At U Blush we recognize the need to have a  platform and community for a well rounded reader. Should the contemporary woman feel fragmented? Should she go to one site for fashion, another for love, and another to be in the know about popular culture and entertainment? No!  The contemporary woman is not broken up into little pieces rather all of her multiple parts come together to make up who she is and that is execatly how her news and information should be – all in one place! The CPS is a full woman, and all her wants, needs, and interests are right at her finger tips at U Blush Magazine.

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Appreciating the Full Woman 

So when we say the Contemporary, Professional, Woman we pay homage the the multi-dimensional woman of today’s world who can rock heels to a board meeting which she heads, strut to happy hour with her her girls, only to come home to her man who takes them off. Or she may dance the night away with a new beau she meets at the hottest lounge, and come home to tell her girls all about it. Either way she is comfortable in her own skin, diverse in her interests and abilities, and valuable to her self and all those around her. She demands respect not so much through her words but through the self respect and humilty that she carries with her daily.

The contemporary professional woman knows how to weather the storms of life. She understand that life has its ups and downs and she has had her fair share of roller coaster rides. She maintains her dignity and respect by keeping faith and continuing to live as the best version of herself. Committed to growth and development she explores the world through travel, dining, and cultural experiences as well as reading and sharing intellectual and regular home girl conversations with old and new friends. The CPS is as strong as she is “weak”, able to put on her big girl shoes to rise to any challenge when the time calls but sheds tears and leans on a friends when its needed.

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The Contemporary Professional Woman is best described as

Bold in her appreciation of Love and the cycles of relationships from embracing her singledom, to enjoying the dating life, entering into relationships, and trusting the time for breakups. Her relationships romantically, with family and friends, and with herself are equally important.

Luxurious in her appreciation of Lifestyle through travel, exploration, fine dinning, and unique experiences. She may be born in the USA but this travelista has a passport and travels the world internationally! Even when she doesn’t she dreams of getting off American shores, researches distant lands, and plans to eventually make her international debut, just when the time is right!

Unique in her appreciation for entertainment. She knows how to relax, enjoy art, maybe even tap into her own creative sides. From watching the latest films, television shows, and listening to the latest music to an appreciation for independent art, this woman can escape the reality of life and appreciate arts imitation of it.

Sophisticated in her appreciation for maintaining her health and wellness. Recognizing that self care is important she seeks to live well through taking care of her mind, body, and soul  – nutritious eating, exercise, and inspirational writing can maintain her need for wellness.

Haute in her appreciation for fashion and make up. Yes this woman likes to look good and see’s her wardrobe and face as a means of sharing her beauty with the world. Her sense of style is a picture of what’s inside, it reveals inner parts of her because who she is shines bright in what she presents to the world.

Cheers to the U Blush Woman in You!

Have Sunshine During The Winter Gloom

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Tis the season to be Gloomy?  Unfortunately, for some people this is the case.  When the sun no longer shines as bright, and friends and family disappear into the holiday cheer of their families, there are some who are left alone to deal with SAD (Seasonal Affective Disorder).

“A lot of my clients, they are struggling when the holidays come around,” said Complete Game Plan, Therapist, Todd Deutsch, MFT.  “…They’re feeling overwhelmed because of the lack of family involvement, (or perhaps they lost their loved ones) it could be a very troubling time.”  Deutsch is a licensed therapist, counselor, life consultant, educator, and mentor who works with both adults and children struggling with a diversity of issues.

WebMD describes Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD), as a mood disorder that happens every year at the same time. The most common time of the year that this occurs is the during winter months.  SAD happens more often in women than in men, and can start as a teenager or as an adult.  This happiness stealing disorder is triggered by: Insufficient vitamin D caused by the lack of sunlight exposure, due to the longer winter nights.

In spite of the lowered amount of access to the feel good rays of the sun, or the bright smiles of family, there are still ways to maintain your inner sunshine during the winter gloom.  Listed are some tips from Mr. Deutsch.

  1. Imitation to sunlight. Since the winter wants to take away our sunshine, bring the sunlight back with a lamp that replicates the suns natural light.  There are many types to choose from, some lamps even mimic the suns natural twelve-hour cycle, so you feel like everyday is a beautiful sun-shinny-day.
  2. Work it out. It may be cold and dreary out, but that doesn’t mean you have to be a couch potato.  Get up and put some pep in your step by joining a workout class or working out in the comfort of your own home.   In an article called Power Surge: The Hidden Benefits of Exercise, it says that research has shown that as little as 30 minutes of cardio three to five days a week will add six years to your life.  A longer healthier life can boost anyone’s mood!
  3. Call on your inner yogi. Stretch, breathe and let go of all your worries and tension, with the relaxing movements of Yoga.  When you release the tension of your muscles, you also release clusters of stress built up in your body and brain.
  4. Surround yourself with love.  When you’re busy laughing and enjoying an outing with friends, or any supportive group of people, there’s no way you will have time to focus on sadness.  Elementary school faculty worker, Gloria VanVactor, says she enjoys being around her sisters during the holiday season, especially when they sing holiday songs together.  Mrs. VanVactor has dealt with SAD since the passing of her Mother and Husband and finds comfort in the presence of family and friends.
  5. Depression-fighting Vita-D.  Give your body the mood-stabilizing boost of vitamin D.  There are many ways to get vitamin D: You can take supplements, cod liver oil or you can get it from certain foods and beverages (e.g., fatty fish, milk or orange juice.)
  6. Positives subtract negatives.  “You is kind, you is smart, you is important,” as said so eloquently by Aibileen Clark (Viola Davis), in the hit film The Help. “Typically, (with) depression and anxiety, it’s all about reducing the negative thoughts we have about ourselves,” said Deutsch.  “(It’s) positive emotion…instead of negative.”
  7. The eye of the tiger.  There is happiness and strength in your naturally born talents. “Finding things that you do well and like to do…reinforce a positive side (of you,)” said Deutsch.  So if you are a writer write, if you are a physical person get physical and so on.  Bringing out the best part of you is happiness in itself.
  8. Give The Best Gifts.   Holiday shopping can be stressful, especially during a recession, but the best gifts aren’t necessarily those that affect your pocket book.  Use your talents we mentioned above, and give a gift reflective of you.  Remember those clay handprints you made for Mom & Dad, when the concept of money was foreign to you? That title token of love was probably one of their favorites gifts.

Todd Deutsch’s Complete Game Plan counseling center is located in Los Angeles, CA. Visit his website for more information about his program. Remember, Tis the season to be Jolly.

Written By Ricki Jae. Morris: “Since of Style Need Not Make Sense,” is her motto.  This Southern Cali Girl is not opposed to standing out in the name of Fashion & Art. As a mother of a 4-year old daughter, she strives to set an example of “Success with Class,” by always being a lady and staying true to self.  In her spare time, Ricki Jae. Blogs about Fashion Designers and Events.

 

 

 

 

Rebelling Against the Status Quo

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There is a new kind of woman in town and she’s a professional, yet ambitious woman, who despises mediocrity, craves creativity and is on an irresistible quest to change the world with her gifts and talents.

Who is she, might you ask?

She’s a modern woman, a contemporary professional stylista, the type of woman who cares for her family, juggles a relationship, her career and a business with stunning ease.

She infuses everything that she does with her feminine essence.

Some might call her a super achiever because she’s ultra-determined to leave her mark and create a breath-taking legacy. In actuality, this is the portrait of a woman who is rebelling against the status quo.

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The status quo denies your greatness, hides your unique abilities and keeps you playing small. Small is being out of alignment with who you were called to be – mighty, magnificent and made to make a difference.

Women who make the courageous decision to rebel against the status quo, are fiercely focused on their purpose, willing to chart new courses and are seeking to RISE to greater heights in every area of their lives.

Rebellious women are gutsy, stylish and unabashed in their pursuit of their goals.

Do you know a woman like this?

A woman who embraces the Law of the Creative Dynamic- and knows that it’s necessary for her to have a grand vision and a core dream, especially since dreams fuel our lives, allowing  us to live life on a higher plane with more awareness to the beauty and significance surrounding us.

I know women like this, but the big question is, are you ready to rebel against the status quo?

  • Rebelling against the status quo enables you to access untapped creative powers that lie laden within you, and become a woman of courage that’s led by faith and directed by wisdom.
  • Rebelling against the status quo is a lifestyle and a different way of seeing the world.

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If you’re ready to life at the highest level than it’s time to abandon any habit or mindset that’s stopping you from living life to the fullest.

Three keys that will help you to identify and develop your rebellious style:

  • Increase your Feminine Influence – identify three ways in which your voice is heard and the areas in which you add significant value to others around you. Grow that area.
  • Uncover your hidden genius- and tap into your most genuine place of greatness, this place is your effortless brilliance. Work from this place. It’s super easy to flow from this place because you shine bright doing what you do.
  • Develop your Female Success Brand- use your visionary perspective to craft a stylish brand that attracts and appeals to the core audience of people you’re called to serve in your business and career. This increases your impact in the world.
  • Discover & Develop Your Core Message– Each of us has a message of truth that we are called to share with the world. Dig deep, unearth it, craft it and share it with the world. Communicate it with “evangelistic” type passion. When others feel your passion it gives them permission to do the same.
  • Create your Elegant Execution Plan – To rebel properly you’ll need a mixture of crazy ambition, killer strategy, and crystal clear vision. Let’s put your goals into action and create massive momentum so that you can get stuff done. You can do it. I’m rooting for you.

Today is your day to rebel against the status quo and embrace your personal power. It’s time to shine your light.

Remember this type of lifestyle is for women who are “obsessed with possibility and live for the rush of turning a thought into an idea, and despise being normal.” This is the ultimate course of action for a woman like you. In the words of Peter Senge, “Ready, aim, fire? Fire. Fire. Fire.”

 

Queenie Johnson, is a Female Success Brand Strategist & Mindset Mastery Maven. She is the founder of sheRISES.org and works with corporate leaders and modern women that are on mission to change the world with their God-given gifts. Her VIP coaching and business consulting clients learn how to break through their glass ceiling, unlock their hidden genius and increase their influence so that they can build a career and business they absolutely love. You can contact Queenie at queenie@sheRISES.org .

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