In the article, “Be The Star of Your Own Life,” we encouraged you to make yourself the leading lady in your life for 2014. Now that we are halfway through the second month of the New Year, I would like to revisit one of the points made in our life star article:
- Encouraging Relationships – It is important to have relationships that push you to better yourself. Remember, “Birds of a feather flock together” (Be The Star of Your Own Life).
The women in the last article expressed a strong belief in the value of social relationships that inspire and support you in your life’s aspirations. The well-known quote “No Man is an Island,” is based on the concept that “human beings don’t thrive when isolated from others.” Nevertheless, you must keep in mind that the key element is picking the right people to create your “Circle for Success.”
Art Enthusiast and Mentor Deborah Charles, 61, who has done everything from Modeling to orchestrating successful art exhibits in honor of her late husband, photographer and author Roland Charles, accredits some of her biggest achievements to her circle of supportive friends. “I’ve been blessed with people, who no matter what I’m involved in they support it,” said Charles. One of Charles’ life goals is to serve her needs and the needs of others, with such an honorable but challenging endeavor, one must be discerning in the choice of the company they keep.
“…Observe and listen…learn how they would be meaningful to your life,” explained Charles, on her methods for choosing beneficial relationships. In addition, Charles said those in her social circle have a spirit of gratefulness, a willingness to share their friends, and have similar interest. For her, the icing on the cake is “people who will speak up for you. ”
If putting yourself out there to meet new people is a little intimidating, you might join an organized group such as clubs based on your interests or cultural group. For instance, just last month sororities were celebrating the anniversaries of their organizations, and pictures of women united by their sorority affiliation were all over social media. Who you are is a great place to start when deciding which groups you might want to join.
Middle school english teacher, Aquyla Walker, 32, who is a member of Delta Sigma Theta Inc., says being a member of the prestigious sorority offers a sisterhood with women of high stature. “I am surrounded by women (who) already have achievements,” said Walker. Sororities are known to be networks of educated women, who work towards the betterment of the community and its members. Being affiliated with such organizations puts you in the environment of upward mobility. “It is the best…I have received jobs because my resume says Delt Sigma Theta Inc,” exclaimed Walker. In addition, Walker says her social circle outside of Delta, is composed of dreamers and visionaries, who are in constant pursuit of their goals. “I believe in having a network of mentors… my friends are people who say, ‘No you [got to] do it’.”
Equally important to the meet, greet, and be-friending process, the golden rule to maintaining positive relationships, is to stay connected. In an age of Twitter, Facebook and Instagram, we have to remember a little face to face time can go a long way. Make the time to nurture your relationships, so in turn they too can nurture you.
Written By Ricki Jae. Morris: “Since of Style Need Not Make Sense,” is her motto. This Southern Cali Girl is not opposed to standing out in the name of Fashion & Art. As a mother of a 4-year old daughter, she strives to set an example of “Success with Class,” by always being a lady and staying true to self. In her spare time, Ricki Jae. Blogs about Fashion Designers and Events.