Ever wonder when you see a young woman with a man 10 to 20 years her senior? “Why,” you might ask. Some may even shake their heads,”I just don’t get it” or worse, “she’s just with him for his money.” Sound familiar? So what is the deal when a younger woman is in a relationship or dates an older man?
Here are 3 reasons U Blush thinks some women date up – age wise that is!
Older and Wiser
Due to sheer time, older men usually have more experience in the dating and relationship area, meaning they have already experienced the highs and lows of relationships. Hopefully they have learned from their mistakes and won’t repeat them with you. It also means they have more to offer you in regards to life decisions such as finance, career, and of course, making relationships work. If you’re with the right man, following his lead may take you just where you’ve always wanted to be. This doesn’t mean he has to be paternalistic or that you can’t have your own voice – it’s just the opposite! You both can balance each other out. If he is secure enough to be open to listening to you without feeling undermined by your intelligence, together you can make the best decisions for the both of you.
Along with older and wiser, you may find that he treats you better than you have ever been treated before – adding a spark of romance. Put simply he’s not into playing games, recognizes a good woman, and treats her as such. He may not have always been a gentleman so he may take on the attitude, “been there done that.” Being a player probably faded with the 90’s or early 2000’s, so he calls it like he sees it, meaning he is ready to treat you not as number one but his only one. And if he’s not, he’s probably bold enough to tell you – putting the ball into your court. Either way you know where he stands and what he is looking for. From there you can make an informed decision about what you would like to do.
Stability and Security
Yes, we are in the 21st century and women can take care of themselves but, does that mean chivalry is dead? Some of us still like to feel safe and secure with a man. We want to feel taken care of and know that our beau can protect and provide. Financial security, though important, is just one aspect of this. Additionally, the right man provides comfort emotionally, knowing that when you need support you can always count on him to be there. An older man has had time to grow and mature and with that comes a sense of security in himself which transfers to you and your relationship. Many contemporary women go above and beyond in their relationships, and often times we are looking for a man to do the same, whether that is in time, effort, emotional support, intellectual stimulation, excitement, adventure, and sexual pleasure. Perhaps, with a man who has had more years of experience, his ability to meet these needs are already existent – no need to make him into the man you want, he already is who he will be. If this is true, it’s up to you to decide if this is what you want and need, the information to decide is right in front of you.
Of course every woman’s motives differ and all older men aren’t the same, but in general these are some patterns we’ve noticed. What do you think lovelies? Share your thoughts! Why do you think women date older men?