Think Like a Man is a hilarious comedy that gives us the playbook on how to think like a man. But should we women really be forced to think like men in order to get one? Originally hesitant about the message of the movie and book, it turned out to be informative. It’s just about what you choose to take from it.
In a comedic way, this film reminds women that we have the power to control how we are treated, if we demand it. No, this doesn’t mean being aggressive and forceful. Instead it means exuding self-respect by being confident, humble, and exhibiting self-control. We determine how others treat us based on how we treat ourselves. An enlightening article about emotionally unavailable men asserts that “men use a formula to assign value to the women in their lives and a large part of that formula is derived from how much we believe that a woman values herself.”
Love and relationships are based on trust, communication, and mutual respect between two partners. It’s important to be on the same page, and when there is an imbalance, instead of playing mind games, communicating with one’s partner is key. Overall what we can take away from Think Like a Man is that relationships are reciprocal. It takes two people to create and sustain dynamics within a relationship. If you do not agree with your partner’s behavior:
- Speak up in a loving and kind way so that your partner can be receptive.
- Be open to hear what he or she has to say.
- Reflect on your part in the matter and be committed to changing what you can about yourself.
If this does not work, well you have a decision to make. You can decide to stay with your partner knowing that they may never change, or you can decide that this issue is too important for you to settle. Sometimes you have to get fed up and walk away from a relationship that is causing you undue stress and pain. It is this distance that just might be what brings you back together.