Be The Star of Your Life

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BE THE STAR OF YOUR LIFE: Living everyday as your best self.

Every year we look towards its finish, by aiming to have a better year.   We make “Resolutions,” for self-betterment, in hopes of having a successful 2000-whatever.  This year, U Blush would like to encourage you to “Be the star of your own life,” by striving to be what you envision as your best self.  In order to provide you with some pointers, we have interviewed three women from different walks of life, and asked them to describe the best version of themselves, providing examples of how they embody this everyday.

“I know my weaknesses, and I know my strengths,” answered Ayla Jackson, 25, when asked if she is currently her “Best Version of Self.”  Ms. Jackson with a shy giggle described the best version of her, as a woman who patterns the life after her faith in Christ.  “He set the best example.  I don’t believe I am as close to him, but I try to better myself…that’s all I can do,” said Jackson.

Similarly, Bree Jenkins, 29, who is both a Marriage & Family Therapist and Fashion Blogger of The Gathered Lady, said her best self is something she aspires to be, but she does realize that it will always be somewhat unattainable. Following Ms. Jenkins, Clinical Social Worker and Mother of two, Mrs. Valerie White, 31, said she is about an 8 out of 10 of her best self.

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So how can you become the best version of yourself? Here are some trending standards for living life as your “Best Self.”

  • Spiritual Connectedness- “Spiritual exercise … strengthens you, disciplining your mind so that love and love only guides your thinking and illumines your heart.” – Marianne Williamson (Internationally acclaimed author and lecturer)

“I make sure he’s included in my life,” said Jackson who indicated that she turns to her faith to overcome life’s obstacles.

  • Encouraging Relationships- It is important to have relationships that push you to better yourself.  Remember, “Birds of a feather flock together.”

“You have to monitor and make sure that the relationships that you are engaging yourself are …for self-enhancement,” said Jenkins.

“Surround yourself with people who do what you want to do…go getter’s,” said White.  “If everyone around you sits and just talks about what they want to do, then you are most likely going to be the same way…. Be with people, who are successful in a way you want to be.”

  • Be Good To YOU- The best thing you can do to be your “Best Self,” is to take care of you.  If you are not healthy there’s no way you will be able to help others, or even yourself succeed.

“Talk nice to yourself,” said White. She chooses to speak with nurturing and encouraging words, instead of those that would tear her down.  In addition, White encourages a healthy lifestyle along with your occasional and affordable spa day.

  • Plan to Succeed – Many are turned off by the phrase “New Year’s Resolutions,” so instead of making a list of resolutions, make a plan for living your life completely and as your “Best Self.”

“The first step is, I have to believe in myself,” said White.  Her credo is failure is not a reflection of your [lack] of greatness, it’s a reflection of your preparation.  So write it out, and make your plan of action to succeed.

Each woman we interviewed felt as if they were not yet their best selves, but in actuality because they live their lives today striving to be better, they are indeed their “Best Self.” The best you is the person who, lives through her passions, loves without fear, and knows she is worth it all. Be Your Star Today.

Written By Ricki Jae. Morris: “Since of Style Need Not Make Sense,” is her motto.  This Southern Cali Girl is not opposed to standing out in the name of Fashion & Art. As a mother of a 4-year old daughter, she strives to set an example of “Success with Class,” by always being a lady and staying true to self.  In her spare time, Ricki Jae. Blogs about Fashion Designers and Events.

 

Have Sunshine During The Winter Gloom

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Tis the season to be Gloomy?  Unfortunately, for some people this is the case.  When the sun no longer shines as bright, and friends and family disappear into the holiday cheer of their families, there are some who are left alone to deal with SAD (Seasonal Affective Disorder).

“A lot of my clients, they are struggling when the holidays come around,” said Complete Game Plan, Therapist, Todd Deutsch, MFT.  “…They’re feeling overwhelmed because of the lack of family involvement, (or perhaps they lost their loved ones) it could be a very troubling time.”  Deutsch is a licensed therapist, counselor, life consultant, educator, and mentor who works with both adults and children struggling with a diversity of issues.

WebMD describes Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD), as a mood disorder that happens every year at the same time. The most common time of the year that this occurs is the during winter months.  SAD happens more often in women than in men, and can start as a teenager or as an adult.  This happiness stealing disorder is triggered by: Insufficient vitamin D caused by the lack of sunlight exposure, due to the longer winter nights.

In spite of the lowered amount of access to the feel good rays of the sun, or the bright smiles of family, there are still ways to maintain your inner sunshine during the winter gloom.  Listed are some tips from Mr. Deutsch.

  1. Imitation to sunlight. Since the winter wants to take away our sunshine, bring the sunlight back with a lamp that replicates the suns natural light.  There are many types to choose from, some lamps even mimic the suns natural twelve-hour cycle, so you feel like everyday is a beautiful sun-shinny-day.
  2. Work it out. It may be cold and dreary out, but that doesn’t mean you have to be a couch potato.  Get up and put some pep in your step by joining a workout class or working out in the comfort of your own home.   In an article called Power Surge: The Hidden Benefits of Exercise, it says that research has shown that as little as 30 minutes of cardio three to five days a week will add six years to your life.  A longer healthier life can boost anyone’s mood!
  3. Call on your inner yogi. Stretch, breathe and let go of all your worries and tension, with the relaxing movements of Yoga.  When you release the tension of your muscles, you also release clusters of stress built up in your body and brain.
  4. Surround yourself with love.  When you’re busy laughing and enjoying an outing with friends, or any supportive group of people, there’s no way you will have time to focus on sadness.  Elementary school faculty worker, Gloria VanVactor, says she enjoys being around her sisters during the holiday season, especially when they sing holiday songs together.  Mrs. VanVactor has dealt with SAD since the passing of her Mother and Husband and finds comfort in the presence of family and friends.
  5. Depression-fighting Vita-D.  Give your body the mood-stabilizing boost of vitamin D.  There are many ways to get vitamin D: You can take supplements, cod liver oil or you can get it from certain foods and beverages (e.g., fatty fish, milk or orange juice.)
  6. Positives subtract negatives.  “You is kind, you is smart, you is important,” as said so eloquently by Aibileen Clark (Viola Davis), in the hit film The Help. “Typically, (with) depression and anxiety, it’s all about reducing the negative thoughts we have about ourselves,” said Deutsch.  “(It’s) positive emotion…instead of negative.”
  7. The eye of the tiger.  There is happiness and strength in your naturally born talents. “Finding things that you do well and like to do…reinforce a positive side (of you,)” said Deutsch.  So if you are a writer write, if you are a physical person get physical and so on.  Bringing out the best part of you is happiness in itself.
  8. Give The Best Gifts.   Holiday shopping can be stressful, especially during a recession, but the best gifts aren’t necessarily those that affect your pocket book.  Use your talents we mentioned above, and give a gift reflective of you.  Remember those clay handprints you made for Mom & Dad, when the concept of money was foreign to you? That title token of love was probably one of their favorites gifts.

Todd Deutsch’s Complete Game Plan counseling center is located in Los Angeles, CA. Visit his website for more information about his program. Remember, Tis the season to be Jolly.

Written By Ricki Jae. Morris: “Since of Style Need Not Make Sense,” is her motto.  This Southern Cali Girl is not opposed to standing out in the name of Fashion & Art. As a mother of a 4-year old daughter, she strives to set an example of “Success with Class,” by always being a lady and staying true to self.  In her spare time, Ricki Jae. Blogs about Fashion Designers and Events.

 

 

 

 

Rebelling Against the Status Quo

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There is a new kind of woman in town and she’s a professional, yet ambitious woman, who despises mediocrity, craves creativity and is on an irresistible quest to change the world with her gifts and talents.

Who is she, might you ask?

She’s a modern woman, a contemporary professional stylista, the type of woman who cares for her family, juggles a relationship, her career and a business with stunning ease.

She infuses everything that she does with her feminine essence.

Some might call her a super achiever because she’s ultra-determined to leave her mark and create a breath-taking legacy. In actuality, this is the portrait of a woman who is rebelling against the status quo.

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The status quo denies your greatness, hides your unique abilities and keeps you playing small. Small is being out of alignment with who you were called to be – mighty, magnificent and made to make a difference.

Women who make the courageous decision to rebel against the status quo, are fiercely focused on their purpose, willing to chart new courses and are seeking to RISE to greater heights in every area of their lives.

Rebellious women are gutsy, stylish and unabashed in their pursuit of their goals.

Do you know a woman like this?

A woman who embraces the Law of the Creative Dynamic- and knows that it’s necessary for her to have a grand vision and a core dream, especially since dreams fuel our lives, allowing  us to live life on a higher plane with more awareness to the beauty and significance surrounding us.

I know women like this, but the big question is, are you ready to rebel against the status quo?

  • Rebelling against the status quo enables you to access untapped creative powers that lie laden within you, and become a woman of courage that’s led by faith and directed by wisdom.
  • Rebelling against the status quo is a lifestyle and a different way of seeing the world.

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If you’re ready to life at the highest level than it’s time to abandon any habit or mindset that’s stopping you from living life to the fullest.

Three keys that will help you to identify and develop your rebellious style:

  • Increase your Feminine Influence – identify three ways in which your voice is heard and the areas in which you add significant value to others around you. Grow that area.
  • Uncover your hidden genius- and tap into your most genuine place of greatness, this place is your effortless brilliance. Work from this place. It’s super easy to flow from this place because you shine bright doing what you do.
  • Develop your Female Success Brand- use your visionary perspective to craft a stylish brand that attracts and appeals to the core audience of people you’re called to serve in your business and career. This increases your impact in the world.
  • Discover & Develop Your Core Message– Each of us has a message of truth that we are called to share with the world. Dig deep, unearth it, craft it and share it with the world. Communicate it with “evangelistic” type passion. When others feel your passion it gives them permission to do the same.
  • Create your Elegant Execution Plan – To rebel properly you’ll need a mixture of crazy ambition, killer strategy, and crystal clear vision. Let’s put your goals into action and create massive momentum so that you can get stuff done. You can do it. I’m rooting for you.

Today is your day to rebel against the status quo and embrace your personal power. It’s time to shine your light.

Remember this type of lifestyle is for women who are “obsessed with possibility and live for the rush of turning a thought into an idea, and despise being normal.” This is the ultimate course of action for a woman like you. In the words of Peter Senge, “Ready, aim, fire? Fire. Fire. Fire.”

 

Queenie Johnson, is a Female Success Brand Strategist & Mindset Mastery Maven. She is the founder of sheRISES.org and works with corporate leaders and modern women that are on mission to change the world with their God-given gifts. Her VIP coaching and business consulting clients learn how to break through their glass ceiling, unlock their hidden genius and increase their influence so that they can build a career and business they absolutely love. You can contact Queenie at queenie@sheRISES.org .

Jamiese Price, Television News Reporter, Blogger

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Childhood dreams become reality. Jamiese Price, television news reporter, is a one-stop shop in journalism. From securing interviews, to filming, and editing her own pieces, this Jane of all trades is a forced to be reckoned with. Her journalism career started with a mock news cast in the fourth grade. At 9, she wasn’t a polished newscaster but she didn’t let failure stop her.  “I was horrible, but I wanted to be great so bad.” The following year Jamiese had the opportunity to “redeem” herself and from then on she knew she had found her calling. Attending college on a full ride scholarship to Tuskegee University in her home state of Alabama, Jamiese was an English major who sought out opportunities to hone her journalism skills. Her junior year she secured an internship in Detroit where she met a young newscaster who rocked the news station. Jamiese described her admiration for this young woman. “I want that” she told herself and quickly decided that she needed to pursue graduate training at Syracuse University.

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July 2006, Jamiese and her mother made the 18-hour trek from Alabama to Syracuse, which marked the beginning of her bourgeoning reporting career. She described the move as “emotional” with accompanying feelings of self-doubt. “What am I doing? Am I making a mistake?” she asked herself. Jamiese used her fear, anxiety, and excitement to push her to courageously face her dreams. Though Syracuse was a very intense and demanding yearlong program, Jamiese learned the essentials of the profession. Using this journalism boot camp to force her into reporting shape, she bested taking criticism and using it to enhance her skills. The long hours she spent in class and on the job, coming home to a few hours of sleep in the brutal upstate New York cold, all while being away from her family prepared her for a grueling career as a reporter.  During these testing times Jamiese turned to a group a classmates who became her family and helped each other get through the process. She also had the support of her family and friends back home that constantly motivated her to succeed.

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In August 2007 Jamiese’s hard work paid off when she graduated from her program and six months later secured her first job with a station in Huntsville Alabama! Though her first job differed from what she learned in school, Syracuse provided Jamiese a solid foundation for her employment. This “one man band” was able to successfully shoot and edit her own video, set up her own interviews and write her own stories. As a general assignment reporter she covered an array of stories including tornadoes, crime, and everyday feel good pieces.  After a year and a half, Jamiese decided to take a break from reporting by teaching at a community college and working as a policy coordinator for the American Lung Association.

 

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During an almost 2 year hiatus from broadcast journalism, Jamiese felt a burning desire to stay abreast of the happenings in media, fashion, and popular culture. In August 2010 she decided to add blogging to her resume. Jamiese started Ooh La La blog where, “fashion never looked so sweet.” On this platform she lets her personality come out discussing the hottest fashion, celebrity trends, and affordable pieces for the frugalista in all of us. Ooh La La is where sexy meets excitement! The blog invigorated Jamiese but there was still one thing missing. She began to miss the television industry and decided to continue her pursuits to become a premiere journalist. Securing another position with a local Alabama news station, Jamiese is mastering the mix of both her passions in blogging and reporting. A long but fulfilling workday, starts with blogging at 6AM, several hours reporting, and ends with blogging. She might spend her day reporting on a gun trial and come home and blog about Solange’s estillo. Her ability to switch between the two is predicated on her being her authentic self and remembering who her audience is – the perfect combination.

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Jamiese’s future goals include more fully integrating her two passions by becoming an entertainment reporter. Her dream job would be a red carpet correspondent for E news. In this way she can merge both worlds as a multi media journalist – all things pop culture, fashion, entertainment but still using journalism skills. As she pursues her career goals she knows that she must work hard now to play harder later. She often misses being away from her family and friends but uses them as her motivation to succeed. Her mother is her biggest inspiration who taught her the value of hard work and dedication. With a supportive family and solid foundation, Jamiese is empowered to pursue her dreams in order to make them proud and act as a role model to her nieces and nephews. She believes that if they see her achieving they will inevitably know they can too make their dreams a reality. In true U Blush Woman spirit Jamiese encourages others to believe in yourself enough to stand-alone. “Don’t let someone else dictate your dream.” Sometimes people won’t understand your vision because it was given to you. Nonetheless she challenges each person to pursue your passions and eventually success and happiness will ensue.

See Jamiese Price’s electrifying on screen personality!

Managing Your Anger

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Some of us may have we grown up thinking that anger is a bad thing– we were told to stifle our anger and to hide it. On the opposite end, some of us express our anger every time we feel it, sometimes with lasting negative consequences. Despite its expression, anger itself is adaptive. It lets us know when something is not right and provides an opportunity for us to correct the issue. The problem is not being angry, it is what we do with that anger.
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Anger becomes a problem when it is not properly dealt with. I like to think of anger expression on a spectrum– from explosive to repressive. You will note that both ends of the spectrum can be destructive. When you are explosive you react to your anger in exaggerated ways. Your anger response is so overly excited that you are easily triggered and which can lead to numerous verbal and physical altercations.
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On the opposite end, having an inhibited anger response may mean that you try to repress your anger and avoid expressing it. When something angers you, you tend keep it in. The problem is that you can never truly keep emotions locked in. It festers and eats away at you– it might build up so much that one day the slightest transgression can lead you explode to in rage.
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The key to anger is acknowledging it and expressing it appropriately. You must first note that you are angry and accept the feeling. Think about what has angered you and decide an appropriate course of action. People who have anger problems tend to respond the same way. Since different situations anger you– your response should be in accordance to that situation. Once you have decided and carried out the course of action to remedy the problem, always reflect and evaluate what has happened. What was your response? Did the outcome match what you expected? Are you still angry?  What, if anything, could have been done differently?
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