5 Things I Learned From Being in Love

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1. Love isn’t all about receiving, but about experiencing joy together. 

It feels good to receive, nobody can deny that,  but what’s more important is  the joy two awesome folks can experience with each other. When two people are deeply in love, the giving/receiving part comes naturally, and without tension. Couples whose love is strong enough usually get their wants and needs met – experiencing the joys of this together is most important.

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2. Love isn’t about someone else making you whole. 

You must already be “whole” before you can ever experience a healthy, loving relationship with someone. You know what they say, to love someone else or they can love you, you must first love yourself. It’s pretty much the same concept with being “whole.” When you’re already in whole, once you enter a relationship, the need to have someone else give you something that only you can give yourself won’t stand in your way of love.

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3. Life really, truly is all about feeling. 

Feeling joyful, bliss, appreciated and unconditionally loved – that’s what life is about.  I’d bet there isn’t a single one of us on earth who doesn’t want these things above all else. When you realize that this is what it’s all about, you’ll be more in tune to each other and your feelings. And you know what they say: when one spouse feels badly, so does the other and when one is happy, so is the other. So, take note of what creates these positive feelings for the both of you – and do them more often.

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4. Having peace feels way better than winning an argument.

I don’t know about you ladies, but it can feel good to “win” arguments. However,  it’s a quick way to sour the good vibes, when you take winning too seriously. There doesn’t have to be a winner and loser in every argument. Respect each other’s side, and usually, (when you stop feeding that ego that screams “but I have to be right, and S/he has to admit it!”) you’ll find that a lot of arguments weren’t big enough to evolve into more than a serious discussion in the first place. In fact, when you think about how short life is, some arguments will suddenly become irrelevant, and so will winning them.

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5. It’s okay to disagree. . . on some things. 

Obviously, it’s important to be in agreement on the important matters of a relationship, but the truth is, I really don’t need him to agree with me on whether or not aliens do in fact exist (and they do). Bottom line:  if it’s not a deal-breaker, we can simply agree to disagree, but still enjoy a fun, lighthearted debate every now and then.

Written by: Kendra Richards is a writer, pet lover, aloe vera-eater and a woman of many talents. If she isn’t passionately typing away, she’s more than likely spending time with her family, pets, boyfriend or attempting to sew something. It’s also possible that she’s buried deep in some type of activism work. Writing anything and everything from beauty, health, fashion product reviews to informational articles, she loves variety when it comes to reading and  writing. A people and animal lover, she believes cats are super heroes in disguise.

Top 4 Marriage Proposals That Went Viral

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It’s the twenty first century, but whoever said chivalry is dead … is wrong. These four wedding proposals prove that romance is still alive and well – well at least for some of us it is. Given the advancements of modern technology each of these proposals take popping the question to a whole new level. Get out your popcorn and tissue because these videos are made for Hollywood.

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When a model arrives on a photo shoot, she thinks it’s business as usual. Hair, make-up, and wardrobe and she’s set in front of the camera to make magic happen. Little did she know that her physician boyfriend – and soon to be fiance – had some magic up his own sleeve. You might call him the love doctor because this beau put on a full production to make sure his lover had no idea that a day on the job would actually be the day she said “I do.” Check out her unbelievable response to her on set wedding proposal!

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Going to a movie theater will never be the same for this bride. She thought she was going to see a movie with friends – little did she know that she was the movie! Unbeknownst to her she watched on screen as her soon to be fiance set up the marriage proposal. Sharing his love for his soon to be fiancé, he asks her father for her hand in marriage. It soon becomes apparent to her that this is no film but her actual marriage proposal and the anticipation builds as her lover runs across town to pop the question. From the screen into the theater he drops down onto one knee, commencing an in person proposal. Amidst cheers from the crowd she happily accepts her wedding ring! “Every true love story isn’t in the movies” for this one, it just took place in one!

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This proposal takes listening to music in the car to a whole new level. But what would music be without visuals? Instead of a music video, this suitor took to the street for a live lip dubbed version of Bruno Mars, “I think I want to marry you.” This drive by and live video included cameo performances by the bride to be’s most important family and friends who all danced in the street in the name of love! And those who couldn’t make it were even video conferenced in! Finally, the crowd parts as her prince arrives to ask her hand in marriage. “It takes a village to raise a child,” and in this case a whole community to propose!

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Technology, song and dance is a new aged way to propose, but other forms of artistry can be equally magical! What would happen if the inconspicuous wall you passed by each day suddenly marked one of the most incredible moments of your life? That’s what happened when this boyfriend had a mural painted to ask for his girlfriend’s hand in marriage. If art is an expression of the heart, it’s clear that this husband to be loves his bride so much so that he wanted the whole world to see – or at least a busy street in New York City.

Is He Hubby Material?

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Now in February, the notorious relationship-themed month, it’s customary to witness many, especially those in new relationships swept away, basking in the pleasures of their romance. However, this is also the time of year when the excessive focus on love might lead to the reassessment of current relationships. Some women may be left questioning if their current romance is going anywhere.

After years of dating, it’s easy to get lost in casual connections. However, if marriage is your aspiration, it might be time to weed out the undesirables that could be wasting your time. Before any serious “where is this relationship going?” talks commence, it’s important to first determine if your ‘Mr. Right Now’ has the key qualifications to be your ‘Mr.  Right’.

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Communication is STILL Key: We’re all familiar with the cliche, communication is the key to a successful relationship. It’s so true! The way you communicate plays a big part in your relationship. Being able to address concerns and problems respectfully, without raised voices, and remembering to compromise with one another goes a long way. A bickering relationship is rarely an enjoyable one.

Shared Values: Having things in common can strengthen any relationship but having similar principles, ideals, and outlooks on life will help keep you both on the same page. Even when you experience different viewpoints, respecting each other’s opinion is a surefire way to insure harmony.

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Reliable Support System: It’s important to have long term goals that steer you towards a healthy, happy, and successful life, but everyone experiences times of hardship, self-doubt and discouragement. It is during these times when it’s essential to know you can rely on one another for support and encouragement through whatever adversities you encounter.

More Smiles than Tears: In any relationship, it’s always important to spend more time laughing than crying. Whether it is a night on the town or snuggled up in bed together, your wants and needs should never be dismissed or pushed aside. A man with husband potential will always be  willing to put in the extra effort to make you smile.

While there are many other important aspects to consider when deciding if a relationship is headed for the alter, assessing if you might be with the right person is the first step. Not everyone has matrimonial encouraging traits, but the knowledge and understanding of what your looking for in a husband is one step closer to a happy future marriage. If your in a relationship it might be time to ask that question, “Is he hubby material?” How he measures up to these characteristics may be the answer you are hoping for.

Written By:  Janurie Ulett: Hailing from quaint suburbia, Long Island meets the fabulousness of NYC. With a Bachelors degree in journalism from Brooklyn College, Janurie’s passion for writing comes naturally, fueling her career as a health and fitness freelance journalist. Her signature flair can be described as 19th-century English meets modern day Dear Abby as she faithfully satisfies her readers’ appetites, one word at a time.

Why He Hates Your Vibrator

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There are men who are thrilled to incorporate sex toys into their relationships, while others scowl at the sight of BOB (your Battery Operated Boyfriend.) It’s the latter that stumps us. You thought he’d be happy that you were frisky enough to bring home a vibrator? But, the plan backfired. Now, what’s a girl to do?

Answer: Know why he hates BOB and encourage a newfound friendship. Below are reasons our male counterparts despise our plastic friends and ways to remedy the situation so both of you are pleased.

THE PROBLEMS:

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Problem 1: He’s Feeling Replaced

You haven’t “replaced” your love-muffin with your plastic friend, but it can feel that way to him. Most people enjoy using toys during foreplay, but not as objects to use in place of him. Making sure you aren’t spending more time solo with BOB than with your beau is vital if you want everyone to get along.

Side Note: If unfullfilment is the case, then there’s other ways to go about that. Here’s a tip: tell him what you want, guide him in bed, and if he’s simply resistant about pleasuring you, then honey, you’re in the wrong bed.

Problem 2: He’s Feeling Like He Doesn’t Satisfy You

You may not even be unsatisfied but it can sure come off like that. Restricting your sexual activity to your vibrator can give the impression that you aren’t satisfied with his sex, or that the vibrator is better. For many of us, there’s not a toy on this planet we’d choose over our guys, so make sure he knows that!

THE REMEDY:

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Use Your Mouth

To talk to him! Better yet, actions speak louder than words. He may need a reminder that he’s your ultimate pleasure source. Make sure he knows that he is number one and your toys are your way of throwing in a unique adventure for both of you. If he knows you’re satisfied, then there’s a better chance of him joining in on the fun instead of stuffing your vibrator in the garbage disposal (Crunch Crunch). Remember, in the case of vibrator meets lover, if you want them to play well together, reassurance is everything.

THE PROBLEM:

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You Didn’t Introduce Them Properly

Did introduction between lover and vibrator occur thanks to him following the sound of the buzzing? Did you introduce them right in the middle of a hot session together? For some men, all of the above is acceptable, but for others, it’s freaky and intimidating. Suddenly he’s filled with these thoughts such as,  “I haven’t been pleasing her well enough” or “I’m not big enough!” Panic mode sets in, and he now resents the objects that brings you pleasure.

THE REMEDY:

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Re-Introduction

Reintroduce your partner and Bob on better terms and encourage them to partner. Instead of going solo, if you want to decrease your chances of giving the impression that he isn’t fulfilling to you, try introducing toys as part of foreplay, or in some way that includes him. Plus, if he’s having fun too, then he’s more likely to begin a friendship with Bob.

Tip:  It’s hard to hate something that feels good to you too! Some men enjoy vibrations, hence the reason male vibrating rings exist. Any vibrator will do.  Try using it on his sensitive parts. Even better, try using a couple’s vibrator so he doesn’t feel like he’s sharing you with a vibrator. 

Written by: Kendra Richards is a writer, pet lover, aloe vera-eater and a woman of many talents. If she isn’t passionately typing away, she’s more than likely spending time with her family, pets, boyfriend or attempting to sew something. It’s also possible that she’s buried deep in some type of activism work. Writing anything and everything from beauty, health, fashion product reviews to informational articles, she loves variety when it comes to reading and  writing. A people and animal lover, she believes cats are super heroes in disguise.

 

 

 

 

5 Quotes of Love that will Light Your Fire

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Nothing is more inspiring than things other people have said, especially when those things speak to us. With Valentine’s Day right around the corner, who couldn’t appreciate a little inspiration in their love life?  These 5 quotes are a pot of gold because they’ll remind you what love is about, so get ready for a love buzz!

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1. Number one is for you rebel lovers, partnered with someone you never wanted to fall in love with:

“Love is the ultimate outlaw. It just won’t adhere to any rules. The most any of us can do is sign on as its accomplice.”         

 – Tom Watson

That explains why some folks have a love/hate relationship with love itself.  You simply can’t help who you love, even if they don’t match up as your ideal soul-mate. You can’t “turn off love.”

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2.There is no remedy for love but to love more.”

 -Henry David Thoreau

Like the saying “laughter is the best medicine,” Henry’s quote is so beautifully true as it reminds us that love is the medicine  for love. Another way to think of it, depending on the situation: “The only way to get over an ex is to get under the next!” Just a thought!

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3. John Lennon’s metaphor for love was too irresistible not to list:

 “We’ve got this gift of love, but love is like a precious plant. You can’t just accept it and leave it in the cupboard or just think it’s going to get on by itself. You’ve got to keep watering it. You’ve got to really look after it and nurture it.”  

– John Lennon

If any of us have ever loved a day in our lives, we can relate to what Mr. Lennon said. Love can do a lot of things, but it can’t continue thriving through years of  neglect. It may not completely perish, and if you were to dig real deep, you’d still see it in there somewhere, wiltering. But it won’t thrive until we jerk it back up and give it a splash of water. Or better yet, keep watering your love plant on a regular basis and it’ll stay alive and healthy

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4. For those who avoid love in  fear of being hurt:

“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” – Rumi

Powerful, huh? And much easier said than done.  However, when those walls we build up to keep us from being hurt by love are torn to shreds, we can no longer find excuses to continue avoiding love. Fear walls do not hold up to love.

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5. To spark that passionate fire deep within your hearts, my favorite love quote:

“You only need one man to love you. But him to love you free like a wildfire, crazy like the moon, always like tomorrow, sudden like an inhale and overcoming like the tides. Only one man and all of this.”   

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Enough said!

Written by: Kendra Richards is a writer, pet lover, aloe vera-eater and a woman of many talents. If she isn’t passionately typing away, she’s more than likely spending time with her family, pets, boyfriend or attempting to sew something. It’s also possible that she’s buried deep in some type of activism work. Writing anything and everything from beauty, health, fashion product reviews to informational articles, she loves variety when it comes to reading and  writing. A people and animal lover, she believes cats are super heroes in disguise.

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