Going the Distance

Sources say the 5 Must Do’s of Long Distance Relationships are:

1. COMMUNICATION: Make time to laugh. Communication is the foundation of any great relationship and in a long distance relationship it’s the only way to feel as though you are actively involved in your partners life. Text messaging is for convenience only, if you’re in a staff meeting and someone makes a joke you want to share or if you’re out busy running errands and see something funny, take a pic and send a text. For times when you’re in the car taking a long drive, out for lunch alone or even cooking dinner, the phone is perfect, there is something about hearing the voice of the one you love. Best of all skype, it’s amazing, you can not only talk to the person but you can see them. After a minor argument or a long day of work in the office catching a glimpse that smile across the computer screen is contagious.

Make a Plan

2.MAKING PLANS: Having a plan in life never hurt anyone and in this case it could be quiet beneficial, especially if you’re a no drama kind of guy or gal. Start by making plans to see each other, while once a month is highly recommended, every other month can be just as good. Go on vacation together, try choosing a place you both have never been so you can explore together. Also, if the relationship is serious it could be a good idea to pay a visit to your hometown to meet the family and show your partner where you grew up. Another part of making plans is making plans for your relationship, this is when the tough questions have to be asked and eventually answered. Who can relocate? And if both, where would you prefer to live? It is important to know when can the relocation occur? These are necessary discussions so it is best not to argue about them but to discuss them when you are ready.

3. BE HONEST: It is often said that honesty is the best policy and I would have to agree. A long distance relationship is hard as it is and no good can come from unfaithfulness, physically or emotionally. Trust is the second key component of this type of relationship and without it things will end much quicker then began. The act of honesty is not only for your partner’s benefit but is also for you, no one wants to feel trapped in a situation they feel they can not get out of, so speaking up about your feelings regarding the distance or whatever concerns you is a good thing. As long as you do not nag about the situation your partner will be glad you feel comfortable enough to be honest and open. Additionally another part of honesty is being honest with where the relationship seems to be going, remember, progression is necessary to maintain interest and excitement.

4. SURPRISES: Surprises in the mail are always nice, even surprises via email are good. Surprise them with something they like, perhaps he told you a story about his favorite action figure growing up and out of the blue you happen to see it one day at a flee market, buy it and send it in the mail in a little brown box. And maybe there was a book she has been meaning to purchase that she hasn’t gotten around to, check out amazon.com and have it shipped directly to her. Sometimes I think people forget that it really is the little things that make a difference, standing in line to see Jay Leno for an hour just because he’s a fan, or going to see the nutcracker once a year because she simply loves it, these are simple acts that will become memories for a lifetime. And note: tangible expressions of love are priceless, a teddy bear that’s bigger then her head or an oversized handmade christmas card, these things are always there to remind you of that special someone and that even though you can’t always touch them, you can always feel them near.

5. INTIMACY: Let me start by saying intimacy is not just sex, sex is simply one form of such. Intimacy can be in the way you talk to each other, the sharing of personal stories or fantasies, hopes and dreams. Intimacy is private, it’s those private moments, conversations, acts of affection all bundled into one. So the next time you see each other spend sometime alone, in private, perhaps in a hotel room for the night, or even day, and just enjoy each others company.

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