The Gift of Orgasm is Coming This Year Part 2

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It was so steamy in our first Gift of Orgasm article that we had to give you a part two – tips for single gals to pleasure themselves solo!

Replicate sex

Realistic dildos are designed to replicate intercourse with a male. Not identical to having a partner, but this makes giving yourself a Holiday orgasm even more fun. Amongst the most popular are dildos made from material called “VixSkin” or “CyberSkin” or “SuperSkin” or “PureSkin,” etc. Basically, if it has the word “skin” in the material’s name, it’s designed to feel like skin. The downside: “skin-dildos” requires more care than your average silicone-material because the highly porous “skin” materials mean it holds bacteria, and isn’t best for long-term use due to risk of infection. The next best thing to “skin-like” dildos are realistically shaped ones made from safe silicone.

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The G-spot Gal

A favorite G-spot toy, Envie. G-spot toys are the perfect gift for the girl who wants to experience the “gush” or “squirt” everyone talks about. First, you must locate your G-spot before you can begin to stimulate it. Once you have, it can be one of the best orgasms you’ll experience. Some women are able to orgasm via manual stimulation (1-2 fingers vigorously rubbing the anterior wall of the vagina — the spot where you feel a ridged-like texture, and when pressed, you’ll feel a need-to-urine-like sensation) or using  a toy designed to stimulate the g-spot. Just like the other orgasms, the G-spot is no exception, as some need a heavy-duty g-spotter with an intense curve in its design (like the Pure Wand, a steel, pricey dildo).

Some like Pure Wand. Others, like myself, can achieve the g-spot orgasm via more affordable, slightly curved toys (such as the Lia G-Bliss vibrator, a favorite). Another inexpensive option for those who are able to reach their G-spot is creams, like “Tickle Her G-Spot,” to improve sensation. The cream is applied directly to the G-spot, and results in swelling, making it easier to find. It may also make it more sensitive to stimulation, therefore making the G-spot orgasm easier to achieve. It can be used with a G-spot toy or fingers.

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Take the Bullet

Bullet vibrators can be used for external stimulation, and some for internal, too. Bullets tend to have powerful vibrations with a hint of buzziness to them, which can either be perfect for you, or too intense and result in what I call Numb Clit Syndrome.

For those of us who prone to NCS, using a bullet internally and leaving it in place is enticing. Once in place, your hands can manually or electronically massage the clitoris for added stimulation.

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Girl On-The-Go

Another favorite of mine is a hands-free vibrator that can be tucked away in your undies, while you use your hands to explore or just slip it in for a thrill outside the house. I love a good strap-on clitoral vibrator, which is a vibrator that sits on the outside of your vulva and is held on by straps, too. My favorite and often used hands-free vibrator is Noa, a toy that stimulates the G-spot, with an outer “stem” that nudges against the clitoris.

Oral Simulators

Even oral sex lovers can have the next best thing. SaSi — a toy labeled an “oral simulator” is said to help achieve a similar-to-oral-sex orgasm. It has a “nub” under a layer of silicone that moves back and forth to simulate the sensation of tongue movements.

A more budget-friendly version, and favorite of mine, is the Sqweel 2. It has small silicone “tongues” that rotate on a wheel and flap against the skin.

Happy Self-Gifting Lovelies!

 Written by: Kendra Richards is a writer, pet lover, aloe vera-eater and a woman of many talents. If she isn’t passionately typing away, she’s more than likely spending time with her family, pets, boyfriend or attempting to sew something. It’s also possible that she’s buried deep in some type of activism work. Writing anything and everything from beauty, health, fashion product reviews to informational articles, she loves variety when it comes to reading and  writing. A people and animal lover, she believes cats are super heroes in disguise.

The Gift of Orgasm is Coming This Year

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Chilly, winter months mean spending more time indoors, but more time indoors often leads to one of our favorite things — warm, blissful sexThis is the Season for giving, after all. Giving yourself as a holiday gift to a lover is popular, but what about the single ladies? Who’ll give you the gift of orgasms? Who better than yourself? For some, being single means abstinence, but it doesn’t have to be orgasm-less! Here are some fabulous pleasure-gifting ideas to give yourself this Holiday!  Single ladies, do not fear! The gift of orgasm is coming this year!

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The Rabbit

One of the most effective toys is the dual-action vibrator, famously referred to as the “Rabbit.” Dual-actions come in many shapes and sizes – animal shapes, g-spot curved, – but they all have one thing in common: two stimulators:  the internal “shaft” that stimulates the vagina, and the clitoral arm for stimulating the clitoris – hence the name “dual-action”. A dual-action vibrator is one of the best toys for solo play as they provide the most stimulation to the most important areas, simultaneously! (My favorite dual-action, Vitality). Find the right dual-action vibrator and it could result in the best orgasm you’ve had, flying solo.

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Some women require a lot of power to reach a clitoral orgasm, whereas others can achieve clitoral orgasm from something as simple as a steady stream of water, a rumbly vibrator, or a lubricated finger.

Whichever category you fall into, you’ll find at least one option that’ll do the trick for you.

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For the Clit-O’-Steel:

For those who need intense power, a vibrating wand such as the Hitachi should be pleasurable. The Hitachi is said to be so powerful that it can bring the toughest of clitoris’ to their knees. For the clit on a budget, the cheaper wand versions also get great feedback.

For the Clit-O’-Honey

Those of us who can reach clitoral orgasm with little power (or no power, just a slippery finger) have more options to choose from. For starters, a well-lubed finger can be just as satisfying as a vibrator! Using lubricant (such as Spunk Lube) and a finger or two to slide and glide up, over and around the clitoris with stroking motions can be a perfectly orgasmic gift for a solo-gal.

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For heightened stimulation, clitoral gels and creams are available that work by increasing blood flow to the genital area, and therefore increasing sensation. *Look for safe ingredients in lubes (paraben-free is ideal). My favorites are Secret Garden by Shunga and Horny Honey.

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 Showerhead Technique!

Another option for the clit-on-a-budget include this time-tested favorite. I’d almost swear the inventor of the removable showerhead must’ve been a woman with a high sex-drive! A steady stream of water makes for one awesomely orgasmic gift. If you have a removable showerhead and you haven’t already, go jump in that bathtub, girl! Lay down and experiment with the different settings while directing the flow onto your clitoris. This technique works great for the gal too stressed to orgasm since the warm water is relaxing, making it easier to focus on the… gift at hand.

For the gal without a removable showerhead:

Head to your local Bed Bath and Beyond asap! Kidding. You can position yourself under the tub faucet; legs wrapped around it, and let the stream fall onto your hot spots. 

If these steamy tips weren’t enough be sure to check out Part 2!

Written by: Kendra Richards is a writer, pet lover, aloe vera-eater and a woman of many talents. If she isn’t passionately typing away, she’s more than likely spending time with her family, pets, boyfriend or attempting to sew something. It’s also possible that she’s buried deep in some type of activism work. Writing anything and everything from beauty, health, fashion product reviews to informational articles, she loves variety when it comes to reading and  writing. A people and animal lover, she believes cats are super heroes in disguise.

The Journey to Great Sex

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Sex is all about the connection between you and your partner. Do you trust each other? Are you open to try new things? Are you willing to be honest and learn from each other? These are all important qualities for implementation of the following tips to great sex! Grab your partner and read along!

You Can’t Go Wrong With the Clitoris

The clitoris is a reliable way to elicit arousal. Your best chances lie within that tiny little pearl. For most women, it’s easier to orgasm through clitoral stimulation than penetration. With 8,000 nerve endings packed into something the size of a pencil eraser, it’s no wonder clitoral orgasm is favored. Just remember, gentleness is key. Rough, direct contact to the clitoris, without lubricant feels like sand paper on an open wound. So exercise gentleness, please.

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Take a Risk, Bare it All

Standing with the covers wrapped tightly around you as if you’re in your gynecologist’s office creates tension. Remember, he wants to see you or he wouldn’t be there. Better yet, if he didn’t want to explore and ogle your beautiful nakedness, you shouldn’t give him that luxury, anyway. Refusing your lover a glimpse of your body sends the message that you don’t want to be there and your lover might wonder if you’re even turned on by them. Don’t hesitate to let them know.

Tip: Compliments are powerful tools, and remember, it’s not a women’s-only worry. Men feel insecurities, too so let’s make a pact to complement each other and encourage each other’s nudity! Remember to complement each other throughout the day as well as during and after sex.

Bottom line: If you can muster up the nerve, try on your birthday suit, just once, you can guarantee whether or not your partner is turned on by you. If you can’t, then at least make a promise to work on your self-image. Another promise, everything’s more fun naked (as long as it’s legal).

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 Don’t Stop

Juliet Richters, Ph. D., author of “Doing it Down Under” took a survey from  19,000+ people where 52% of women said they’ve made a guy stop in the middle of foreplay — including oral stimulation — because they were afraid of taking too long. Speaking from personal experience, the worry of taking too long does hinder orgasm. Had my partner not been diligent and reassuring, I would have far fewer orgasms. On the bright side, there are ways to speed up arousal. Contrary to popular thoughts, quick tongue movements won’t speed up her arousal/orgasm. In fact, they’ll do the opposite. While every girl, but fast licks only numb the clitoris. Slow, gentle movements, on the other hand, can speed up “O” time significantly. So, guys, take your time to bring her to the good stuff and let her know. Ladies reassure your partner that he can stop you any time, although it’s unlikely that he will take you up on that offer.

Tip: Gentle massaging of the clitoris before engaging in oral foreplay gets the blood flowing quicker. So, when you swap your hand/finger/vibrator for oral, you skip the first few minutes it takes to get the sucker to respond, and therefore you’ll get your “Big-Bang” quicker.

If you can’t bring yourself to dine south of the border (I know, lack of classy words), then be upfront about it. Nobody wants someone down there who’s resentful the entire time.

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Doggy-Style with a Side of Romance

During the position crudely deemed “doggy-style,” romance, isn’t a word that comes to mind, but it’s quite sensational, nonetheless. To put an intimate twist to this impersonal position, place your hand under her chin, and look into her eyes for a second – it shows you’re interested in more than just her lower half. Kiss the tip of her shoulder and then the small of her back to remind that you care.

Tip: The more bodily contact, the better, so don’t limit your hands to her hips. Run your fingers down her spine… and elsewhere!

Enjoy these tips this week and check back next week for Part 2 of Great Sex for Two!

Written by: Kendra Richards is a writer, pet lover, aloe vera-eater and a woman of many talents. If she isn’t passionately typing away, she’s more than likely spending time with her family, pets, boyfriend or attempting to sew something. It’s also possible that she’s buried deep in some type of activism work. Writing anything and everything from beauty, health, fashion product reviews to informational articles, she loves variety when it comes to reading and  writing. A people and animal lover, she believes cats are super heroes in disguise.

 

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