What it Means to be “Sex-Positive”


Today, the term “sex-positive” has become an entire movement. “Sex-positivity” is a word often used in a positive light to describe a person or group.  It classes together opinions as either “sex-positive” or “sex-negative.”

“Sex positivity” generally refers to someone who views sex and sex education as positive. It is being in favor of healthy sex education, awareness, and an openness to talk about sex without feeling shame.

Today, I think most people would agree that healthy sex education is a positive thing for the world. I’m a firm believer in the saying “knowledge is power,” because the more we know, the more control we have.


Results of  Sex Positivity

If we’re not ashamed to talk about sex, to educate about sex, and to get answers, we’ll  have the power to make informed decisions.

If we’re not ashamed to discuss and teach how to care for our sexual organs,  we’ll fear them less and know how to take care of ourselves without panic or ignorance. We’re taught as soon as we grow teeth how to brush them. Our downstairs should be no exception, yet many people never learn how to care for their genitals properly. Most of us are taught how to wash, yes, but what about yeast infections? How to prevent them or care for them if they occur? What about how to clean the folds, or what discharge is and what the variations can signify about our health?

We wouldn’t  worry about what STDs looks like, if we’re properly educated on the causes and symptoms.

Many teach STD education to youngsters, but not with enough information. If so perhaps the confusion over an ingrown hair (it isn’t a splinter, promise) wouldn’t be so common.

We wouldn’t worry if pregnancy can result from oral sex, if we’re taught what causes pregnancy and what doesn’t.


How many sex education classes teach that other part of sex – non-consensual intercourse? The part that happens at least every 2 minutes in the U.S. according to the R.A.I.I.N. Network (which I’d confidently say is a gross understatement considering the sexual assaults that go unreported.) What about the part that saying no means no at any time? The part that forcing yourself on a non-compliant person is a bad thing?

In that light, many label ourselves as “sex-positive” because we want to be fully educated on these things, and want the same for our kids.

Sex-positivity simply means embracing and enjoying ourselves as sexual beings.

Written by: Kendra Richards is a writer, pet lover, aloe vera-eater and a woman of many talents. If she isn’t passionately typing away, she’s more than likely spending time with her family, pets, boyfriend or attempting to sew something. It’s also possible that she’s buried deep in some type of activism work. Writing anything and everything from beauty, health, fashion product reviews to informational articles, she loves variety when it comes to reading and  writing. A people and animal lover, she believes cats are super heroes in disguise.


  1. Love this post! I’m a student studying in Chicago and used some of your images for a Sex Positivity blog I created. Feel free to check it out:

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