You know when it seems like your relationship is completely out of whack? Your spouse is just unexplicably “off” and you feel like somewhere along the way, you guys have hit an irritable, frustrating bump in the love road. Every time one of you opens your mouth, the other jumps on the defensive train and it turns into one argument after the other, and over seemingly nothing. You don’t know what happened, but over the last few days, you’ve been at each others throats, and everything s/he does seems to set you off (and vice-versa.)
Virtually all relationships go through “relationship PMS” at some point. It may be as frequent as your own PMS, or it may be as rare as once a year. Wherever you stand on the scale, learn to identify the issue for what it is and be mindful that it, much like Aunt Flo, will also pass. Even knowing this, relationship PMS is not fun for any of us, so here are a few ways to cut through that cruddy phase and get your relationship back in order.
We rarely feels harmonious during PMS week, and relationships are no exception. There’s stress and frustration, but harmony eludes us. When dealing with the frustration of the PMS spell (whether it’s your PMS or your relationship) grab yourself a piece of peace and harmony. One of the simplest methods is by using guided meditation (which you can find on YouTube). Sitting through a 15 minute session of guided meditation works wonders to bring your focus, clarity and mental state back to more sane levels. If you can get your lover to participate with you, even better! It’ll help bring the relationship back into balance.
Too much time together
Obviously too much time together can lead to further frayed nerves. So agree to spend half a day alone, doing something that relaxes and rejuvenates the both of you, then meet up for a relaxing activity that you can do together. For example, my spouse & I took a late-night adventure into the peaceful, quiet woods last weekend and felt better than if we’d stayed in with a boring movie. Just a breath of fresh air, and a little nature can help bring you both back into a more easy-going state of being.
You need a laugh
…or perhaps a drink, but there is a reason people have said laughter is “the best medicine” for so many centuries. If you can get yourself a good, hearty laugh, then your outlook and mood will in fact lift. Speaking of a good laugh, what’s funnier than two people having some light-hearted fun with each other? Achieve this by channeling the inner child in you and cook up a prank to play on your lover. Think saran wrap on the toilet seat or a go old school and get a whoopie cushion (whoopie cushions for men = endless hours of fun). If you can master a funny prank that’ll make him laugh too – you just might end the PMS phase for good. Nothing cuts tension like a fit of laughter. Just make sure it’s done with kindness and not cruelty, and be prepared to get pranked in return!
Never underestimate the power of music
Music is another tried and true method for altering your mood. One of my favorite happy-songs is “Happy” by Pharrell Williams. I cannot play that song and not smile. Anytime I feel discouraged, down or overly stressed, I play it, and it never fails to uplift my mood. If you have your own favorite song that puts you in a can’t-resist-must-dance-now mood, then put it on repeat and don’t stop until you’re there! You and your partner both will benefit from the good vibes of a happy song.
Written by: Kendra Richards is a writer, pet lover, aloe vera-eater and a woman of many talents. If she isn’t passionately typing away, she’s more than likely spending time with her family, pets, boyfriend or attempting to sew something. It’s also possible that she’s buried deep in some type of activism work. Writing anything and everything from beauty, health, fashion product reviews to informational articles, she loves variety when it comes to reading and writing. A people and animal lover, she believes cats are super heroes in disguise.